There have been moments in my life where I literally feel like I can feel the ground shifting beneath me. These moments change me, and have changed me over the course of my life. I hate admitting this, but the moments that stand out the most, are the horrible ones. The ones where I literally had to pick myself up off the floor and keep it moving.
The other day I found myself sitting on a bench in the middle of FIT doing work. Usually when I sit down to do homework I get sidetracked and end up thinking of other things in between. Well this happened as usual. My best ideas definitely come to me unannounced, and that’s exactly how I like it. I am a thinker, over thinking pretty much everything, and hardly ever
letting anything slide by without reflecting on it. This is a blessing
and a curse. I started thinking back to my 20’s. How much I have changed during my “early” 20’s and how much I am bound to change towards the “end” of my 20’s. I started making a list of things that I feel are important things to carry with you as a mental note. If I had known these things then, I definitely wouldn’t have reacted the same, but even so, knowing that I wouldn’t change a damn thing.
Real friends will be there when it’s inconvenient for them.
Through life (especially your early 20’s) you’ll definitely notice how your relationships change with people. I had friends I thought I would never go a day without speaking to, and now years later, I barely hear from them and vice versa. You can really fight for friendships, with everything you have…but if the person doesn’t want to make an effort to be there for you- they won’t be. It’s not a terrible thing to grow apart and go your separate ways, and as you get older you learn that it’s okay to let go of these things. People change, situations change, and people who want to be in your life, will make every effort they can to be there. It makes me very happy to know that I have so many great friends who would be there for me in a heartbeat, no matter where they are. I don’t think these types of relationships should be forced, and if you’re constantly feeling like you’re putting in more than you’re getting, you should probably step back and reevaluate your relationship with that person.
Relationships end, life doesn’t.
I’m not a relationship guru , but I pride myself in really understanding people and situations, and I have to come this simple conclusion. Things end and begin for a reason.I know people tend to think that once you lose a boyfriend or girlfriend that your life simply can’t be the same-and you’re right it won’t be, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I have been in two serious relationships in my life that have both taught me different things. Different things about myself, and others as well. When someone walks away from you, let them go, your fate doesn’t lie on anyone who walks away from you. And, that is the truth. Consider that the person is doing you a favor. If someone isn’t completely into the relationship, is that even a relationship at all? Don’t get me wrong, I have been at the end of it, and thinking my world was colliding in front of my eyes…And the more I began to think about it, the more I realized that things like this happen, and we grow from them. We learn more about ourselves, we also learn how to be self sufficient and not rely on others for our own happiness in life. You will be okay, and you’ll come out of it a little bruised, but that’s how life is…one big learning experience that never fails to surprise you.
Trust your gut.
up I always remember my Mom telling me this. She always told me to
follow my intuition, and what I felt was right. Even knowing I should do
so, sometimes I go against it completely. This is something I have
definitely learned the hard way. Honestly, if something doesn’t feel
right, it probably isn’t. I can’t even count how many times I have
looked back on situations saying “I KNEW THAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN” but
for some reason that never deterred me. I think if anything I have
learned to listen to myself more. That little voice that pops up when
something doesn’t sit well, it’s usually right, and it shouldn’t be
Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.
Case in point: This blog, and career switch. I used to care about what people thought, and it got me nowhere. I spent a lot of time wondering if I was doing the right things depending on what feedback people would give me. I started realizing that I wasn’t really doing what I wanted to do, I started living for other people and not myself. There were so many people who didn’t understand why I started a blog, why I would leave a job that is a “secure” career, and why I would decide to change my mind after going to school for five years. “Why would you go back to school? What makes you think you’ll even make it in fashion? IT’S SO CUT THROAT.” They may be right, it’s a risky decision, but you know what…at the end of the day it’s my decision, and I am the one living it. I think it’s important to remember how much weight people’s opinions can carry in on our own lives. These are your decisions, and they are building your future. Sure, input is always great and you can listen, but don’t let it hold you back from what you really want. When I decided to take the plunge and apply to FIT a lot of people weren’t really sure how to feel about it, including my parents. They wondered if it was the right decision for me, and ultimately I questioned whether I should follow through with school because of that. I understood where they were coming from, but at the same time it hurt me knowing that they weren’t backing MY dream. I decided to go ahead with school and now they couldn’t be happier with what I am doing, and how hard I am working to get there. The point is, if you want it, you can do it. There’s no limit, and the only thing holding you back in the first place is not doing it at all. You are full of so many infinite opportunities, and you should do as many as you can, while you can…life is way too short.
This is part one of two posts that I have on this topic. I will publish the second half one week from today. Just some thoughts that I am sure some of you can relate to, if you have any things you’d like to share please leave them in the comment section, I would love to read!